I haven't blogged in a very long time, and I sincerely apologize for that. My week has been disgustingly busy, and today, I finally got a snow day (thank the lawd). So I got to relax and stuff, it was a pretty nice feeling to just sit and do nothing.
Anyway, my topic of the day is...well...really, I can't put a label on it. I'm sure you'll get the gist of what I'm saying as you read along.
When I was little, although I was a bit of a tomboy, I watched a lot of Disney movies and I vowed on being treated like a princess. To this day, I like things being done the way I want them to be done, no compromise, no ifs ands or buts. I like the door to be held open for me and I like my chair to be pulled out before I sit. I like when a guy sees me standing on the train and offers his seat. I don't like waiting for a guy. All of these things that I desire from a guy, whether it's a guy I like or just a random stranger-guy, are secretly desired because I'm slightly afraid that if I demand these things or make it known that I want these things, that I'll seem like a diva or a primadonna (I am neither of these, let it be known, I am a living princess and I don't care haha). But in all honesty, I am not a primadonna, a diva, or even a princess for wanting these things. I am a LADY.
As a young child, I feel as though boys should be taught how to treat a woman. The boy should already see his father treating his mother like a lady, even more so like a queen, since that's his wife. Then, in addition to being used to seeing it, the boy should be taught. You hold the door for Mommy, you pull out Mommy's chair...it makes them feel like a man at a young age so when they do become at the manly age, then they are used to it. And even if there isn't a father figure in the house, the mother should try to tell her son, "This is how you treat women", show them, and MAKE them demonstrate it in their actions.
In today's society, it hurts me to see so many of our men acting like un-hometrained BOYS. I take the Metro pretty much every day, and I constantly see young men, teens and older, sit in chairs while women, no matter the age, standing. It's normal for me to see men walk through a door and let it close behind them, even after noticing a woman was behind them. I hear men referring to women as all types of bitches and hoes on a daily basis. It isn't too much of women to ask to be treated like a lady. That's what comes with being a man. Many men think that being a man comes with turning a certain age. No, being a man is ACTING like one. And part of being a man is being chivalrous towards women. In today's society, chivalry is so completely dead, it's ridiculous.
So, to clarify things...not to sound like a bitch, but guys:
- Yes, I find it disrespectful when you call women bitches around me. Don't try to justify yourself by saying, "You're not a bitch so I'm not talking about you" or "I tell it like it is". No, you tell it like a BOY who hasn't let his mental ball drops yet. And yes, I will say something about it.
- When you see a woman walking toward the door, hold it open for her, whether you're behind her or not. Or at least leave it open behind you so you don't damn near slam the door in her face.
- If you go on a date, do NOT have the woman waiting on you. If anything, you wait on her (ladies have a lot more things to do to get date-prepped than guys, so hush).
- Pull out the chair on a date. Just do it. It shows some gumption and hometraining.
- If you're on public transportation, at an event, or anything, and you see a woman standing, no matter her age, you get up and let her sit. It's the manly thing to do.
So, yes, I feel completely justified for saying I want to be treated like a princess, but it all starts with being treated like a lady. And ladies, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be treated as such.
Guys, do better and you'll get better (women, that is).
Okay, woo! Had to let that out. Toodles blogbuddies!
--Me
P.S. My boyfriend treats me like a princess, so I finally got my wish. <3
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